Your success is largely determined by your mindset. If you are consistently making excuses, complaining, and focusing on what you wish you had, you will never get anywhere. However, if you take ownership of your choices and actions, choose to be joyful, and focus on what you can do right now to get where you want to go, you will eventually succeed. All of these choices start with your mindset. I’d be lying if I told you it was easy to change thought patterns. It’s not. But it is worth it.
Here are 5 mindsets you need to develop if you want to grow as a person and achieve success.
1. Change Begins with Me
Nothing and no one is going to change until you do. It’s not up to your parents, spouse, kids, boss, friends, or whoever else you want, to change. It is up to you. Have you ever heard the saying “You can’t control others’ behavior or what happens to you, but you can control how you respond”? I heard this saying all the time growing up, but the older I get, the more convinced I am that this is true. You have complete control over how you respond to situations, even if you have zero control over what that situation is. But – here is the critical part – how you respond dictates what happens next. The change begins with you. You change your response to a situation, and you can alter the course of your life.
2. I am Responsible for My Life
This goes hand in hand with the mindset that change begins with me. Once you realize that you are what needs to change in order for your life to change, the next step is taking ownership of your life. You, and only you, are responsible for where you are in life now. You are the one who made the choices that got you here. Therefore, you are responsible to make the choices to get yourself somewhere else. There is no room for a victim mindset in a successful life. If your life is a mess, it is your responsibility to make a change.
3. The Definition of Failure is Giving Up
This was a hard one for me to learn. For the majority of my life, I thought that failure was falling, so whenever I would fall, I’d put the experience in the box marked “I’m a failure”. Generally, once something was in that box, it never came back out. But by living in that mindset, I missed out on so many wonderful opportunities to live life! It took a while, but eventually I learned that falling is not the same as failing.
People fall and mess up all the time. Falling is normal, and it’s to be expected. It is the choice that you make when you do fall that decides whether you fail or grow. If, when you fall, you choose to give up and stay down, that is when you fail. However, if you choose to stand back up, brush yourself off, and start running again, you will eventually succeed.
4. There is no Such Thing as Perfect
This one is arguably the hardest one for me. Notice I said is, not was. I use present tense because honestly, I’m still struggling with this one in various areas of my life. Some people (including me!) have this tendency to think that if they can’t do it perfectly, they can’t do it at all. This so wrong! When you believe that, you get caught up in “perfection paralysis”.
In other words, when you’re focused on being perfect, you never do anything because outside of heaven, perfection is impossible. However, when you understand (and become ok with) the fact that things are never going to be perfect, you will realize that it’s better to do something rather than nothing, and you will finally make progress. One of my mentors (Hannah Keeley) loves to say: “Sloppy success BEATS perfect failure“. I don’t think there is a better way to put this concept. If you absolutely must have perfection, you will fail. But if you are willing to muck in and get something done, even if it is sloppy, you will find success.
5. Breakthrough Doesn’t Happen Overnight
This is a crucial mindset to own and understand. So many people want the quick fix. They want to wake up and have their life magically better overnight. What you need to understand if you are going to be successful is: lasting change cannot happen overnight. Changing your life takes effort, perseverance, and time. However, if you can stick it out and stay focused on your goals, ultimately, you will get where you want to be.
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